It was raining all day, and it reminded me of one of my college friends texting me asking if I wanted to play in the rain. Amused, I thought it was cute at first, but it really is a great mindset to have.
You can dwell on the negatives of a rainy day and stay in bed all day (which isn’t necessarily that bad when you have coffee and Netflix) or you can appreciate the days that aren’t so sunny.
Rather than just dropping in a quote, I’ve been elaborating on why a lot of these quotes really speak to me. Yes, this one might be simple, but I think a lot of people have a hard time grasping this concept.
In fact, I’m sure a lot of people misinterpret this. Expectations and standards are two different things, and I think people get confused by the two. When you have standards, you know what you want for yourself and you attract based on the energy and the mindset you give back to people. That’s where appreciation comes in. Positive things happen to positive people, and I can attest to that.
When you expect certain things from people all the time, you’ll likely be disappointed constantly. When you imagine a situation playing out in an exact way, you’ll likely be frustrated when it doesn’t come to fruition.
When it comes to expectations, you can only control one person and that’s yourself. You can choose to stay frustrated because life didn’t go as planned, or you can try to learn from mistakes or mishaps. Life sort of just happens, but your character is more so defined by how you react.
Today’s quote is from one of my favorite Selena Gomez’s song “Back to You.” For years, I never believed in destiny. I thought everything just happened randomly. But the past few years have changed my mindset a lot. I think everything happens for a reason, and if something is meant to be, it’ll happen.
Obviously there are exceptions with that. You’re not going to get a dream job by simply waiting or sitting on the couch, but if for some reason, you end up in a certain city or if someone comes into your life, I think it happens for a reason. And if somehow, you hate the city you’re in or things don’t work out with someone, start thinking about why this occurrence is happening to you. People are either a blessing or a lesson in your life.
So why do I love this song so much? I just love that despite everything that might happen with someone, you know you’ll somehow come back to each other whether it takes weeks or years. And if they don’t, then it wasn’t meant to be. Again, obviously there are exceptions, but having this sort of mindset that everything happens for a reason has not only made me happier, but also content with my past.
I’m curious what people think so if you agree or disagree, feel free to comment below!
Meet Ruthy Gascot:
Having been born and raised in Brooklyn, New York has given me the opportunity to mix styles. When we think of New York City, we automatically think of Manhattan, but have you heard Brooklyn is the new Manhattan? Brooklyn is a diamond in the rough and that’s how I like to think in regards to my style. Much of my style is influenced by my mother who is my #1 fashion icon and the streets of Brooklyn. I like to hide behind clothes and show my self with style. Spread love is the Brooklyn way.
1) Describe your style in three words
Short, sweet, shy
2) What’s your ideal summer vacay?
Sipping piña colada by a pool
3) What’s your typical coffee order?
Light and sweet
4) Why is fashion important to you?
Fashion is important to me because I can express myself through my wardrobe when I can’t find the words.
5) What’s your fashion motto?
Break the rules. If you feel happy and confident, it will show through your energy and attitude.
Too many times in life, people put their happiness on a pedestal. They say “Once, I get through A, B, and C, I’ll be happy.” Others do it without realizing. They can’t wait until the weekend. They say “I can’t wait to leave this job, or this school,” or whatever stage they’re trying to surpass. Part of success and happiness is the journey that leads up to it. People spend too much time focusing on the future to truly appreciate the present. Life is too short to be taken so seriously, so remember to appreciate the little moments in each day.
This is an outfit I wore for a wedding. This is a jumpsuit from H&M that I got on sale for $25.00. This is a length I’ve never worn before, and the ruffle top is very bold, so I was hesitant to wear something like this, but it definitely stood out in a sea of dresses.
I used to be so worried about taking risks with fashion and “standing out too much” but if you love what you’re wearing and own your look, then rock your outfit with confidence. I’ve learned over the years that if you act unphased by people’s opinions, that you can truly be yourself.
This is one of my favorite friendship quotes. Real friends are always there for you no matter what without any sort of judgement. They’re there to laugh with you, support you and simply be a shoulder to cry on.
Hope you enjoy this quick post.